d e e p t ! ([info]diffdrummer) wrote,
@ 2006-12-13 02:21:00
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Memory flaps like gossamer curtains, thoughts of good old days gently caressing the languid dreamer, reclining on a la-z-boy. Reading the first line, please don't jump into the conclusion that this post is about my favorite activity – daydreaming. It is not, infact daydreaming requires further honing of skills because you need to go a step further in to the realm of unreality or fantasy. This post is firmly rooted in reality, but we deal in antiques here – events fulfilled over the time past otherwise called memories. Even the prickly unpleasant spikes of retained incidents are blunted as the old makes way for the new.

This thing called memory is indeed a great tool – equally useful for elephants and humans. One of the nightmarish prospects about the future, if I make it that far in to the future is the likelihood of losing memory due to senility. It is not a matter of not being able to quote the Bible or the Constitution or the Gita, but forgetting how to clean up yourself after taking a dump. Geez...that's going be god-awful, hope I don't make it that far.

The other day we were talking about our earliest memories. We, as in a group 25-35 year olds. Most people's earliest memories were from around the age 2 or 3. As usual, Freud had proffered an opinion on this condition he termed as infantile amnesia. One tends to forget more things about one's distant past as s/he grows older. A friend's earliest memory was from around the time when she was a year or so. She and her twin sister had been moved to the new nursery after co-sleeping with her Mom for the first year of her life. She recalls crawling out of her crib and making her way through the hallway towards her mother's bedroom. What she vividly recalls about that midnight crawl is a brilliant yellow moon shining through the window at the end of the hallway.

My earliest memory is being held parallel above the ground, at about 3 feet, projectile vomiting into a vertical stream of tap(faucet) water. Well, it is not glamorous as first memories ought to be, I suspect I was dealt a raw deal there (let's wait till we hear from you, right?) I can still see the texture of the roughly finished cement floor, water splashing on it from the tap and the sky at an odd angle. I was being held in a football hold by my nanny so that I could throw up at ease in to the running water. This was in the washing/cleaning area outside kitchen, I was wearing a coffee colored frock, which used to be one of my favorites (I don't remember my other dresses.). I must have been around a year and a half, because we moved from that house before I turned two.

At this point I will dispense a weighty suggestion about life in general - live each day as you'd like to remember it, if you happen to remember it. We are making memories as we breathe. Now, don't let anyone talk down to you about multi-tasking.

I wonder what all moving images will my son's memory retain. Of course he'll be aided by thousands of home movies his parents (please forgive them, they are first timers who tend to go overboard) had made. I've my fingers crossed that his earliest memory will be about the time he saw his first snowfall or the first time he saw the ocean and not about the time he saw his mother bite off her toe nails as he watched his first contortionist act.

If you care to share, what is your earliest memory of yourself?




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[info]rileen
2006-12-13 10:36 am UTC (link)
I have no idea.

When i take away all those memories where i'm unsure whether i really recall, or it's just some sort of auto-suggestion due to many a recounting by fond elders, that's what i'm left with - zilch.

I should perhaps take some time and strain my memory to see how far back i can go with vivid memories .......

Not fussed about it, though. What's the big deal? Do you really feel it matters what Om holds as his first memory?

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[info]diffdrummer
2006-12-13 10:48 pm UTC (link)
No big deal, just a fun exercise to jog your memory :)

In Om's case I wonder whether he'd be able to zero in on one particular memory as the earliest because he is going to have so many visual aids, 'auto-suggestions' and recorded anecdotes - verbal and otherwise - it'd be a bunch of early memories.

btw none of this matters in the truest sense of survival. I view memories as retrievable information about self, in this age where information is the currency, it is not bad if you can print some at your home :-p

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[info]deelight
2006-12-13 11:00 am UTC (link)
You know I am terrible at remembering things...I just hope I don't get Alzheimers, seriously. I think I am blank.
Besides I think a lot of my supposed memories have also originated from seeing photographs or hearing of my childhood from my mom so am not too sure how much of what my memory shows up is what I have recalled on my own.

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[info]diffdrummer
2006-12-13 10:50 pm UTC (link)
I also hope I don't get AD. I used to be able to remember a lot, but nowadays I blank out more often - maybe the aging process.

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[info]quizling
2006-12-13 12:36 pm UTC (link)
As [info]rileen said, the problem is in determining whether the memories are genuine or "reassembled" from subsequent references by elders. For example, I seem to vaguely remember a visit to Kanyakumari when I was still in my mother's arms. I wanted a kaleidoscope but was bought a toy animal instead. My mother dates that to late 1972, which would have made me just under two years old, but I have no way of telling if my memory of the trip is original or if it was reinforced later.

I can't claim to have an eidetic memory, but I feel I remember my early years more vividly than most others I've met. I think my earliest reliable memories date back to when I was between 2 and 3. I have plenty of memories of playschool (kindergarten), including what many of my teachers and classmates looked like. I also remember being carried around a lot by my father, and as he tells me that stopped by the time I was three, I suppose I can date some of those memories with fair accuracy.

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[info]retepsnave
2006-12-13 03:16 pm UTC (link)
I'll third this opinion of reassembled memories.

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[info]diffdrummer
2006-12-13 10:59 pm UTC (link)
I feel I remember my early years more vividly than most others I've met.
Same with me too. I thought it was natural for everyone to remember with so much visual accuracy till I met my husband ;-p the guy seems like he sleepwalked out of infancy and childhood. ha ha.

I google searched a lot of my KG classmates' names just to know what they are upto hehe.

"Eidetic" - new word(for me), useful meaning as well.

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[info]sat_chit_anand
2006-12-13 01:37 pm UTC (link)
My earliest memory is when I was in pre-school nursery when I made my first friend (who I am still friends with) and introduced him to my grandpa who used to come to pick me up from the nursery. Infact most of my early memories have my grandpa in them. It almost seems like I spent most of my time with him then my mom or dad.

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[info]diffdrummer
2006-12-13 11:01 pm UTC (link)
That's great - to be friends still with the first friend you ever made in school. Though I believe it is easier to keep tabs on people these days than it was during earlier times.

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[info]kmusser
2006-12-13 02:21 pm UTC (link)
My earliest clear memory was from when I was 3 - it was taking the ferry across Lake Michigan. I remember standing at the railing watching the boat line up with the docks - it was one of those that people could drive their cars onto, so the road markings had to match up. I don't remember anything from the actual journey, though I've been told I was seasick, so there you go. That's also the age I moved from Michigan to Wisconsin and I remember quite a bit from the Wisconsin house, but nothing from the Michigan one.

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[info]diffdrummer
2006-12-13 11:05 pm UTC (link)
That's a beautiful memory, almost 'geographic' in a sense. If I were a psychic I'd have predicted this kid will take up an occupation that'll connect land and water - either make maps or work as a hovercraft instructor :-P

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[info]kmusser
2006-12-14 01:17 am UTC (link)
Thanks, now I want a hovercraft . . . ok, I admit, I already wanted a hovercraft.

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[info]quizling
2006-12-14 08:13 am UTC (link)
Did you mean the Mackinaw ferry? I guess not, because a bridge made the ferry redundant in the late 50s and I don't think you're as old as that. :)

Incidentally, there's a video on YouTube that shows cars and pedestrians disembarking from the Mackinaw ferry in 1955. I wasn't alive then, but such things appeal to me. As one of the commenters put it: "Watching this, I can't help but wonder — Who are these folks? Why are they in a such a hurry? Where are they going?"

I think that's one reason why some remember the past more fondly than others — they are more susceptible to nostalgia than those firmly-grounded souls who are more interested in the present and future.

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[info]kmusser
2006-12-14 01:43 pm UTC (link)
No this would have been a Muskegon to Milwaukee ferry, they stopped running in 1978, though a new service on the same route started up in 2004.

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[info]diffdrummer
2006-12-14 08:31 pm UTC (link)
Ditto on the last point.

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[info]retepsnave
2006-12-13 03:25 pm UTC (link)
one of my early memories was of seeing a man fishing at night with a lantern hung off a pole over the water while out for a walk... I've been told that we used to go for walks with our dad round a small water reservoir that was near our neighborhood in Brookline, Massachusetts... I may have been around 3 or 4 as we left the Boston area and moved to Rhode Island when I was four.

but again, I'm not sure just how much of it was my memory or was strongly reinforced/reassembled by stories from my mom or by revisiting the place years later.

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[info]diffdrummer
2006-12-13 11:10 pm UTC (link)
how much of it was my memory or was strongly reinforced/reassembled by stories from my mom or by revisiting the place years later

but could they have told you about the lantern off the pole, I mean you painting like memory there. I think where you get help from other people involved in that memory is when you've to pinpoint the exact age of that memory - the contents I believe are wholly yours.

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[info]retepsnave
2006-12-14 02:08 pm UTC (link)
huh... interesting point-

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[info]tko_ak
2006-12-13 07:15 pm UTC (link)
Jeez, my parents have almost no memory. :P

My earliest memory was, on my first birthday (I think), making a sand castle with my Mom. I also clearly remember things from 3-4...like the glow-in-the-dark Mickey Mouse shirt I got for my 3rd birthday. Or the ghost in our house in Tulsa.

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[info]diffdrummer
2006-12-13 11:14 pm UTC (link)
Taking cue from you I think we should devote entire months to making snow-men or ice-castles as he nears his first birthday, so that he won't remember any embarassing(to me) moments :P

Ghost! for real? that must have been fun times.

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[info]tko_ak
2006-12-14 07:41 pm UTC (link)
Not really. Kind of scary for me, as a toddler (his room was my bedroom). But he wasn't sinister or anything. Saved our lives one time.

Perhaps I'll post about it, at some point, in more depth.

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[info]diffdrummer
2006-12-14 08:32 pm UTC (link)
Wow! Haven't met anyone who has seen a ghost. Yah, do post - it'd definitely be interesting to read.

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[info]deelight
2006-12-14 06:04 am UTC (link)
Ok if I have to single out a memory, it would have to be of my brothers (I have two older brothers) dropping me to the nursery. I would run up to my nursery and then head straight for the balcony and push the other kids aside who were in my way so that I could wave out to my brothers. Pushy kid I was...or still am.

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[info]diffdrummer
2006-12-14 08:35 pm UTC (link)
Ha ha - not one but two elder brothers! You could have done all the pushing in the world and nobody would have dared to talk back. The kind of reputation and admiration "senior kids" reaped from puny juniors during that age was tremendous.

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[info]gops
2006-12-14 06:18 am UTC (link)
i was at zoo, where first time i saw a Hippopotamus, i was so amazed by its "something" that,i didnt hear a call "lets go" , than after some time i realised i was all alone. terrified. i didnt remember how they find me,but it should be soon enough as i remember i didnt started crying. i was probably 3 year older at that time.

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[info]diffdrummer
2006-12-14 08:37 pm UTC (link)
That's a unique memory - I mean it is not everyday you see a Hippo, no wonder it stayed.

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[info]jayasankarvs
2006-12-16 04:13 pm UTC (link)
Having idiappam and egg curry for breakfast today.

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[info]diffdrummer
2006-12-17 06:46 am UTC (link)
Live commentary? Or commented on the wrong post?

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[info]quizling
2006-12-20 05:00 pm UTC (link)
Short-term memory.

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[info]shri
2007-01-01 06:57 am UTC (link)
My earliest memory is of spending time with Dad on lazy afternoons.

I was 4-5 yrs. old then and Dad used to tell me stories. Inevitably, in the midst of this story, sleep would sneak up on him (afternoon siesta) and the story which started from "Once upon a time, there was a prince" would suddenly land in the jungle and it was me who would point out to him that he was mixing up stories. In the end, I would just say, "Dad , you are falling asleep. Go to sleep!!"

Talk about the kid taking care of the parent! ;) :)

Surprisingly, I have vivid memories of my childhood but hazy memories from my college days. I hardly remember any of my classmates from college. My college days were neither the best nor the worst, just ordinary...forgettable, I guess.

Oh, wish you and your family a very happy new year, Deepti! :)

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